Make Your Own Ranch Dressing Packets

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The other day I was making a recipe that called for a packet of ranch salad dressing mix. Well, I don’t use these packets very often, so when I went to the cupboard, I found I did not have any on hand. Since I didn’t have time to run to the store and buy some, and I didn’t have time to come up with an alternative recipe, I decided to take a quick look on Pinterest to see if I could make the packets myself. I found this recipe from The Crafty Blog Stalker and it turned out perfect! The only problem was that her recipe made a LOT of dressing. Like 3 1/2 cups of the mix! That would probably last me a lifetime, so I’ve given you a smaller recipe here, which equals about 4 packets of ranch dressing mix (assuming 3 tbsp. to a packet).

Ranch Dressing Mix


  • 1/4 cup plus 2 Tbsp. dried parsley
  • 3 Tbsp. granulated onion
  • 2 Tbsp. garlic salt
  • 1 Tbsp. black pepper
  • 1 Tbsp. garlic powder
  • 1 1/2 tsp. dill weed
  • 1 1/2 tsp. Kosher salt

Mix together and store in an airtight container. To substitute for a ranch dressing packet in a recipe, use 3 Tbsp. of mix. To make a dip, I used 1 1/2 cups plain Greek yogurt, 1/4 cup sour cream, and about 1 1/2 TBS of the mix. I had to add about a tablespoon of sugar to get the taste right, but it was really good!

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapters 18 and 19

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Today we cover the final chapters in our Shepherding a Child’s Heart book study. These chapters cover one of the seemingly “scariest” topics in parenthood – teenagers! Tripp basically builds on the principles laid out in the previous chapters. Many people cringe when they think of their children entering the teenage years, but Tripp says this need not be so. Parents often seem surprised when their teen rebels, but Tripp points out that often the seeds of rebellion were already present in the younger years. It’s just that as the child grows, he or she realizes that Mom and Dad are not all powerful and they no longer fear the consequences so they begin to act on the rebellion that already existed. This is why it is so important to begin this shepherding process early. A few things that stuck out to me as I read:

Young people generally do not run from places where they are loved and know unconditional acceptance. They do not run away from homes where there are solid relationships. They do not run from homes in which the family is planning activities and doing exciting things.

You can accomplish nothing of lasting value simply by being an authority. You must seek to counsel and influence.

Encourage your children not to run from their questions. Everyone does not have to have every question, but everyone must find resolution for the questions he has. Christian faith is robust enough to stand close scrutiny.

Overall, as I finish up the book, I am reminded that as the children grow older, my relationship with them counts more than the rules I make. I must work to influence them during the teen years, not simply command them. I can set all the rules I want, but what good do those do when the child leaves home (or can circumvent any rule I come up with while still in the home)? He or she needs to be able to think for themselves, and it is my role to guide them in that process.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapters 16 & 17

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This is the last week of our Shepherding a Child’s Heart book study! Today we are covering chapters 16 and 17, which covers training objective and procedures in the childhood (ages 5-12) years.

As children get into the school years, they need the character traits that will enable them to do the right thing even when Mom and Dad aren’t around. As Tripp says,

The big issue during these middle years is character. Your child’s character must be developed in several areas. You want your child to learn dependability, honesty, kindness, consideration, helpfulness, diligence, loyalty, humility, self-control, moral purity, and a host of other character qualities.

This requires addressing more than simply disobedience or disrespectful attitudes towards the parents. Making new rules to govern every single issue doesn’t work if the child’s character is neglected. To develop the character, the parent must first assess the needs of the children by looking at the child in relationship to God, to himself, and to others.

After this is done, the process of training the heart can begin. As before, addressing the heart is essential, rather than simply focusing on the behavior. “Unless you take the behavior apart in this way, you end up always addressing the externals. You will be like the man who tries to solve the problem of weeds in his lawn by mowing the grass. The weeds always grow back.”

This quote struck me as a really good visual for the overall premise of this book. The heart is central to behavior. I think this idea is most useful in the childhood years when the child’s conscience and sense of right and wrong really begins to develop. A good reminder for me as my oldest son is entering this stage.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapter 15

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We are almost to the end of our Shepherding a Child’s Heart book study. Today’s chapter goes into more detail on the idea of spanking. In the opening of the chapter, Tripp pointed out that he and his wife used to notice “cyclical patterns of behavior” with their children, where “every few months, they would become unruly,” so the Tripp’s would get serious about being precise and consistent, returning to the “basics – speaking once and expecting obedience.” As things returned to normal, eventually the pattern would repeat itself. Then one day, they realized they were the ones producing the cycles! “When things went well, we became lax. Eventually, the deterioration in our children’s behavior would become painfully obvious. We would respond with renewed courage and effort.” Before getting into any of the rest of the chapter, I have to admit that this passage hit me over the head! I have seen this exact thing in my two boys. As soon as I think my boys have something down, a week or two later the issue will start cropping up again! And I realized that this is sometimes because I let things slide when they are “mostly” obeying. I was convicted of my need to be more consistent in how I deal with disobedience. This can be hard because it takes effort and mental stamina that can sometimes be difficult to muster. But if I keep the end goal in mind, then I will be more likely to persevere.

Moving on, the rest of the chapter goes into the how, when, and why’s of spanking. In a nutshell, Tripp says:

  • When: “when you have given a directive that he has heard and is within his capacity to understand, and he has not obeyed without challenge, without excuse or without delay”
  • How: “You must avoid responding in anger…treating your child without proper respect for his person and dignity,…temper unwavering firmness with kindness and gentleness, Remember that discipline is a rescue mission, [and] You must keep the spanking focused on issues of the heart”
  • Why: “God commands it. Additionally, spanking enables you to deal with issues of the heart”

Tripp then addresses some of the frequently asked questions. This is where I again disagreed with him a bit. For example he says “Rebellion can be something as simple as a small child struggling against a diaper change or stiffening his body when you want him to sit on your lap….You have no way of knowing how much a child less than a year old can understand, but we do know that understanding comes long before the ability to articulate.” The problem is that earlier Tripp says that a parent must “Secure an acknowledgement from the child of what he has done.” This obviously can’t be done with a very young child and I would be very careful of seeing something like struggling against a diaper change as true “rebellion” at less than a year old.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapter 14

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As we move into Part 2 of the Shepherding a Child’s Heart Book Study, Tripp goes into detail about how the objectives and methods of Part 1 work within an actual family. Again, I had some disagreements with the author, but I still found some valuable reminders in the chapter.

First Tripp talks about the command to honor one’s parents. One point that Tripp made that stood to me in this section was that

The parent must be honorable in his conduct and demeanor….A parent who is respectful to his children and teaches them with dignity and respect will be respected by his children. You may not yell at your children. You do not make them your slaves. Suffering indignities from you cannot be a part of submission to authority. When you fail to be respectful or courteous, or sin against them, you must seek forgiveness.

This reminds me of the saying “more is caught than is taught.” We can tell our children to be respectful and submissive, but if we don’t model it, we will simply be teaching them to be hypocrites like us.

Secondly Tripp addresses the command to obey one’s parents. He says it means a child should do what he or she is told “without challenge, without excuse, [and] without delay.” The parent, in turn, must be consistent and give clear directives. The child, however, is not without recourse. The child can appeal (not challenge), but he or she must begin to obey immediately, be prepared to graciously obey either way, and appeal in a respectful way. When the child obeys, Tripp says “It should be our habit to say ‘Yes’ to a request unless there are good reasons to say ‘No.’ It is easy to say ‘No’ because we do not want to think through the implications of saying ‘Yes.’”

I must admit that I am guilty of tending to say “no” out of habit, without really thinking things through. I want to show my children grace, not just “the law,” so I need to work on implementing this idea of saying “yes” to appeals and requests unless there is a good reason to say no.

The final quote that stood out to me was this:

Even though the child will not be able to fully appreciate the importance of submission, training him to do what he ought, regardless of how he feels, prepares him to be a person who lives by principle rather than mood or impulse.

This is certainly something I want to train my children to do – not to be swayed by friends or emotions, but to do what’s right regardless of influences.

As I said, I didn’t agree with everything Tripp said. One problem I think Tripp should have addressed was that he mentions the verse in Ephesians 6 that tells children to obey and honor their parents that it may go well with them and they may enjoy long life on the earth. Tripp then says that if children stay inside the circle of honoring and obeying, “within that circle things will go well and they will enjoy long lives.” Except that’s not always true. Anyone who has ever lost a child knows this. The Bible doesn’t teach that there is a circle of safety and that you are guaranteed a long life and everything will go well if you just honor and obey your parents. Nor does the Bible necessarily teach that those who don’t honor and obey will necessarily have a poor life and die young, though this, of course, can happen. In the early years of a church, honoring and obeying your parents (in a time when Roman persecution of Christians was at its height) in many cases actually guaranteed an early death as a martyr. I think, and feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but it seems like this promise is a general one, not a specific one – i.e. in general principle, if you learn to obey and honor your parents, life usually goes better than if you rebel, and your rebellion could lead to an early death by poor choices (think of the rebellious teens and young adults who die every day from drug overdoses, drunk driving, gang violence, etc.). But this promise is not a specific cause and effect principle for every person. The command to honor and obey is for everyone, but the specific consequences for doing or not doing this are more general rather than specific to every single individual.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapters 12 & 13

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These are the final two weeks of the Shepherding a Child’s Heart book study. Today we will be covering chapters 12 and 13, then we will be taking two chapters at a time until next Friday. I have to be honest, I’m struggling to keep up with the pace, but I’ll do my best!

Chapters 12 and 13 end Part 1 of the book. In these chapters Tripp reviews the lessons from Part 1 and expands on the idea of appealing to the conscience. Tripp says:

Your most powerful appeals will be those that smite that conscience. When the offended conscience is aroused, correction and discipline find their mark…. The central focus of childrearing is to bring children to a sober assessment of themselves as sinners. They must understand the mercy of God, who offered Christ as a sacrifice for sinners…. You must address the heart as the fountain of behavior, and the conscience as the God-given judge of right and wrong.

This was a good reminder for me that I need to consistently and constantly bring my children (and myself) back to the foot of the cross. The Holy Spirit is the one who convicts the conscience and it is the Holy Spirit who can change hearts. I must not focus so much on simply changing behavior, but must see the root of that behavior and help my child to see it as well.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapter 11

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Chapter 11 of the Shepherding a Child’s Heart Book Study is where things begin to get a bit controversial. It is in this chapter that Tripp covers the use of the “rod” in discipline, AKA spanking.

Since this is a controversial topic, I will merely give you a few key quotes I saw from this chapter and leave you to make up your own mind about this form of discipline:

The use of the rod signifies a faithful parent recognizing his child’s dangerous state and employing a God-given remedy The issue is not a parental insistence on being obeyed. The issue is the child’s need to be rescued from death – the death that results from rebellion left unchallenged in the heart.

The rod of correction brings wisdom to the child. It provides and immediate tactile demonstration of the foolishness of rebellion. Properly administered discipline humbles the heart of a child, making him subject to parental instruction.

My own personal take on this chapter is that while I do believe spanking has its uses (I won’t go into them right now), I disagree with Tripp’s use of the terms spanking (“the rod”) and discipline interchangeably. Spanking may be a form of discipline, but it is not the only form. He even quotes a verse in Hebrews 12 about how “the Lord disciplines those he loves” to support his use of the rod along with communication as mentioned in chapters 9 and 10. However, I personally have never seen the Lord literally use a literal rod to discipline his children (have you?). So the discipline in this verse must refer to other forms of discipline than physical spanking with the rod. At least thus far in the book, I do not see Tripp discussing many of these other methods that you can see in Scripture. I did appreciate, however, Tripp’s continued reminder that spanking should never be administered out of anger, retribution, or frustration, but out of a place of love.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapters 9 & 10

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Chapters 9 and 10 in the Shepherding a Child’s Heart Book Study cover the Biblical Communication Method of Communication.

Rules, correction, and discipline, Tripp says, need to be undergirded by communication. Communication includes the following:

  • Encouragement – “communication designed to inspire and fill with hope and courage”
  • Correction – showing children when they are outside of God’s standards
  • Rebuke – a “sense of alarm, shock, and dismay at what [a child] has done or said”
  • Entreaty – communication that “involves pleading, soliciting, urging, and even begging… the earnest pleading of a father or mother who, understand his child, the ways of God, and the extremity of the moment is willing to bare his soul in earnest pleading for his child to act in wisdom and faith”
  • Instruction – “the process of providing a lesson, a precept, or information that will help your children to understand their world”
  • Warning – putting your children “on guard regarding a probably danger”
  • Teaching – “the process of imparting knowledge… causing someone to know something”
  • Prayer – both understanding what your children pray as it is “often a window into their souls” as well as modeling prayer for your child as “hearing your prayer will communicate your faith in God to your child”

This type of communication takes effort, time and prayer, but it can make a huge difference in your relationship with your children. I know this is something I am not always good at, but I am striving to improve my communication with my kids, especially when disciplining them.

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Study: Chapter 8

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This week in the Shepherding a Child’s Heart Book Study, we will be covering chapter 8 today, chapters 9 and 10 on Wednesday and chapter 11 on Friday.

As I mentioned last week, I have read some of these chapters with a bit skeptically. I think Tripp has a lot of really good points, but he tends to be very black-and-white about some of his assertions, and I don’t necessarily agree with everything he says. Scripture should be our ultimate guide, and anything we read in a parenting book or any where else (from a friend, pastor, a blog, a seminar, etc.) should be judged in light of what the Bible says. That goes for what you read on this blog as well! That being said, I will summarize the good points that I learned from the book, and evaluate the rest at the end of the study.

In chapter 8, Tripp begins discussing what he calls the Biblical method of communication. He says communication is “not only the ability to talk, but also the ability to listen…. Your objective in communication must be to understand your child, not simply have your child understand you,” and to “help [your] children articulate their thoughts and feelings,” and “engage your children to understand what is going on inside.” This is part of what we talked about previously of understanding what is going on in the child’s heart, getting at the root of the behavior. For example, if my two year old disobeys me and turns on his light before it’s time to wake up, the root of his behavior is selfishness. He is thinking only of himself and his desire to wake up, not thinking of his brother who is still trying to sleep (in the same room) at 5 a.m.

Tripp gives examples of questions to help you “draw out what your child is thinking or feeling” and he encourages you to come up with your own. I found this fairly helpful in reminding myself to look at the heart and the root of the behavior, not just reacting to the behavior itself.

Finally, Tripp reminds us that we are both above and beside our children:

You are above him because God has called you to a role of discipline and correction. You are beside him because you, too, are a sinner who struggles with [these root sins]

A good reminder!

Shepherding a Child’s Heart Book Study: Chapter 7

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As we move into Chapter 7 of the Shepherding a Child’s Heart Book Study, we begin to get into more practical steps in coming up with Biblical methods that help us achieve the Biblical goals we talked about in previous chapters. “Biblical goals require a biblical approach – only godly methodology will bring glory to God.”

As before, in order to figure out what Biblical methods are, we must first discard the unbiblical methods. The unbiblical methods, Tripp says, have “one thing in common: The human mind is the standard.” Some use unbiblical methods such as manipulation, permissiveness, or even abuse because their parents used these methods and they “didn’t turn out so bad.” But of course this is using human logic and methods, not Biblical ones. Others turn to pop psychology, rewards or bribes, emotional manipulation, punitive correction, or some mish-mash of methods with no consistency at all. These methods “lead to superficial parenting, rather than shepherding the hearts of our children. They only address behavior. Hence, they miss the point of biblical discipline.…If you address the heart biblically, the behavior will be impacted.”

The behavior of our children is not the problem – the root issue is their hearts.

While only God can change the heart, we must help our children see the attitudes of their hearts that are driving the behavior they exhibit. If they are arguing and fighting, is it selfishness that they are really exhibiting? Pride? Anger? Jealousy?

This can be difficult to do; the next few chapters will help as we find Biblical methods to embrace.